SHOW YOURSELF SOME COMPASSION!

Recently, I have been working on learning self-compassion. This does not come naturally to me, due to my life-long pattern of people-pleasing. My childhood conditioning is to please others in order to get the attention and love I crave.

It was not easy, but I have made the decision to change that!

I used to believe that what I wanted was not important, that a “nice” person always puts the desires of others ahead of their own. I believed that thinking of my own needs was selfish.

I feared that voicing my opinion might hurt other’s feelings, so I remained silent.

I didn’t take chances because I feared I might get hurt or fail. Life is just as beautiful from the sidelines, and so much safer, right?

What I have learned is, by living my life in this way, I was telling myself, “You don’t matter and I don’t love you.”

So what, you ask, am I doing to change this?

  • I am making decisions – go ahead, ask me anything :)
  • I am giving my opinion when asked – my honest opinion, not what I think you want to hear
  • I am taking chances and participating in life. I am trying new things – one day soon I will share my exciting new venture with you
  • I am showing myself affection by eating to feel healthy, trying fun, new ways to exercise, and becoming more aware of how I speak to myself internally

Am I perfect all the time? No, but I show myself compassion when I fail. I realize that changing a life-long pattern will not happen overnight. I just keep moving forward and celebrating the baby steps along the way.

I am freaking AMAZING… You are too!

Do something today, just for you, to show how very special and precious you are.

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MY SCALE MADE ME CRY!

I have been working with a naturopath for several weeks. The first thing she did was take blood for some very detailed tests to determine 1) what foods are causing bad reactions in my body and 2) was I born with this sensitivity, or did I develop it?

I felt I was eating very healthy. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that many of the foods I thought were good for me, were actually causing inflammation and pain in my joints! Some examples: almonds, hazelnuts, quinoa, spelt, oranges and cranberries.

One month ago, after the test results came in, my naturopath designed an eating program for me and suggested some supplements that could help. I have been following that program 100% for an entire month and last Saturday was my check-in to see how I was doing.

Keep in mind that I have done my weekly workouts with my trainer and training partner each Friday, I started Aquafit classes at my gym, and I am walking regularly. I promised myself this time I would not be a slave to the scale, so I didn’t weigh myself at home or at the gym the entire month.

I have felt huge differences since I began my new eating program. The pain in my joints is gone and my clothes are getting looser. Based on past experiences with diets, I felt that I had lost at least 30 lbs. in the past month (fast weight loss in the beginning has always been my history).

Well, when the naturopath weighed me, she said I had lost 6 lbs. of fat and she was really happy with that!. Of course, my old DIEt mentality kicked in, and I had to ask how many total lbs. I have lost by the scale. The answer was…. 17 lbs.

17 lbs.?  In a month?  Hell, I’ve lost that in a week in the past! I was not happy! On the drive home, I burst into tears in my car.  Logically, I realize that 4 lbs. per week is amazing, but I set myself up, mentally, by expecting the loss should be 30 lbs. or higher.

I am working through the emotional impact this has had on me, but I wonder if you have experienced this before?  Have you set yourself up with high expectiations, then come crashing down when you don’t meet them?  How did you work through this?

I would love to hear your story…..

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MY SH*T DOESN’T STINK! (and other poop you need to hear)

Yes, it’s true. This blog is all about poop!

Since I have begun following a new eating program designed by my new naturopath, my poo has definitely changed!  I have been able to get rid of the container of baby wipes from the back of my toilet and I no longer live in fear of being stinky in public washrooms.

When your diet is not clean, it affects all aspects of your body…. including its waste elimination. Is your poo too runny? Does it stink? If so, you can likely change this with some adjustments to your diet.

Want to know what your poop should look like and how long it should be? Do you know how often you should poop every day? LOL while you learn the answers to these and many other questions! Listen to my November 12, 2013 Phit & Phabulicious! radio show with guest Sofia Reis (the poo whisperer) at http://debrondeau.com/radio/.

Sofia is a local colon hydro-therapist with Fort Langley Colonics. She makes learning about poop fun! I have used her services for years and recommend her highly. Learn more about Sofia at http://www.fortlangleycolonics.com/.

Afraid to try colonics because you heard they are uncomfortable or stinky? Worried about being too “exposed” during the procedure? Listen to learn the facts about how colonics work and how safe they are.  

Colonics can remove toxins from your body and help you to become more regular. Colonics are also now being used to prepare patients for colonoscopies in a more natural way that avoids harsh chemicals.

Ladies, do you spend time taking care of your skin and choosing what clothes will look best to wear each day? What positive changes might result if you spent some time each day on what is happening inside your body?

It’s all about feeling good… from the inside out!

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THE WEIGHT BETWEEN MY EARS… IS CAUSING THE WEIGHT ON MY ASS!

 I saw a video on Facebook today. It was made by a young man named Matt Dias. Matt weighed around 495 lbs. when he was 16 and has lost 270 lbs. over 6 years. In the video, he showed the world his body and all his excess skin. He works out very hard, but that cannot tighten skin. 

 Matt was very scared to post that video, but he said, “I can’t preach body positivity and hide who I am.” I am so proud of Matt for loving and accepting his body as it really is! He is a beautiful human being! I needed to learn from him…

 I also feel it is wrong to preach body positivity while hiding, but instead of making a video to tell people what I was going through, I just slowly, but surely, stopped preaching. I have completely stopped blogging and the posts on my Facebook fan page have become sporadic.

 I have been hiding! I felt that if I didn’t have a “positive” message, no one would want to hear from me. I thought if I stumbled, I would have let everyone down, and no one wants to hear from a “loser”, right?

 Today, inspired by Matt Dias, I am “exposing” myself to the world. It is long overdue…

 Late last spring, a person I loved, a person I moved to another country to be with (for life I thought), decided she no longer wanted me. I was devastated! I moved back home, but I never shared what happened except with a few very, very close friends and confidantes. There are people in my life, to this day, that do not know what happened.

 I wasn’t aware of it while I was living it, but looking back now, I can see that I fell into a deep, dark depression, which I am, just now, slowly climbing back from. I cried every day at the slightest provocation. I still cry more often than I would like, but now it is usually triggered by someone asking me a question about my relationship, as opposed to some random song on the radio or a tv show.

 To “numb” the pain, I ate. I also drank almost every day. Not to excess, just one or two drinks to take the edge off so I could sleep, I told myself.

 I made food my best friend and told myself I really needed that friend because I had no one else. What a lie! I hid in my little basement suite and rarely emerged except for work or family obligations. I put on a happy face in public. In private, I shut out everyone that cared for me because I felt I had let them down.

 Fortunately for me, I have some very special people in my life. My oldest son does not understand the changes I have made in my life, but he and his family have supported me through everything. One friend shares her weekly workout with me. Another two call me on a regular basis to talk and to encourage me. One friend grabbed my hand one day and walked with me into an event full of my peers, who I was ashamed to face. And then there are the two gentlemen who support me by gently, but firmly, kicking my butt when I need it. They smile and nod when I make excuses why I can’t be at my scheduled appointments, but really, they know bullshit when they smell it! All these people believed I would find my way back to life one day even when I didn’t believe it. They stood by me, waiting for that day, no matter how hard I tried to push them away! I love you all!

 Now to get down to some exposing… In the time since I returned to Canada, I had regained over 100 lbs. of the 250 lbs. I lost previously. It is not a pretty story, but it is my reality. I am not hiding any longer! There are people that will turn away from me because of my truth, and I am okay with that. I no longer feel the need to please everyone. I did get back to my healthy way of eating. I stopped all drinking and started moving my body on a daily basis. As a result, I am losing weight again, but I will handle it differently this time.

 I have decided not to share about my weight loss on my Phit and Phabulicious! fan page. From personal experience, I believe there is far too much emphasis put on weight! Instead of weight loss, my page will focus on making healthy lifestyle choices and moving your body so you can “feel” Phit and Phabulicious! We all deserve to feel good, no matter what size we are! If you have questions about my weight (or anything else for that matter), message me and I will reply to you personally.

 Now that I have emerged from hiding, I commit to blog weekly, even if it is only to say “Hi! I can’t think of anything to write about this week”. If you would like to read about a specific topic, please send your suggestion to https://www.facebook.com/PhitAndPhabulousDeb or deb@debrondeau.com.

 I do not yet understand why the universe sent me down the path I have been traveling for the past year, but I will keep moving, even if some days I only take baby steps. One day it will become clear; I know there must be a very good reason.

 Are you fighting your own battle right now? Have you overcome huge odds to get where you are today? Won’t you share your story? Look at 22 year old Matt Dias. I’m sure when he posted his video, he never imagined it would bring a 61 year old Canadian woman to tears and inspire her to finally come out of hiding.

 You never know who you might touch and inspire! There is someone waiting to hear your story…

 

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MY FIRST VISIT TO THE FOOD BANK

Did the title of my blog catch your eye? Were you shocked to think that an employed person might visit the food bank?

Who do you think frequents the food bank? If you thought it was only drug users or people “abusing” the system, you like me are out of touch with reality!

My employer, Hub International Insurance Brokers, is a supporter of various community projects through their initiative called “Hub Gives” and again this year, Hub asked employees to volunteer time at a local food bank, then generously gave us paid time off from work while we volunteered! Check out the picture of the amazing group of people I worked alongside on my volunteer day at the Surrey Food Bank!

I remember watching a news story several years ago where people in line for the food bank were interviewed by the media. One man said he was there getting food so he could spend more money on Christmas presents for his children. Previously, I often donated items to the food bank, but that interview completely turned me against the people “abusing” our food banks. From that day forward, I only donated baby items. I told myself I would only help “those that could not help themselves”. What I saw at the food bank the day I volunteered was shocking to me!  Contrary to my belief, there were no drug users in the line, just families and employed persons trying to make ends meet. 

I also had a picture in my mind of people lining up every day to grab the “freebies” being offered. What I found out is that you must register before you can use the food bank to prove you are in need and you must re-register every six months to prove your continued need. On top of that, you can only come once every two weeks and only on your specified day. The food that is distributed will only last about four (4) days so no one is living high on the hog off the food they receive at the food bank; this is merely a way to try and make ends meet.

If you line up at the Surrey Food Bank, you will pass through an area where you receive a hamper (really a plastic bag filled with various canned goods). Next you go through the bread/pastry area and finally down a line of tables where various vegetables, salads, chips and juices are available, depending on what was donated that week. You must show proof that you are a registered client at each stop along the tables and the amount of food you receive varies depending on the size of your family and the abundance or lack of donations received.

I worked in two areas. First, I was at the food tables in charge of distributing raw parsnips and beets. I didn’t expect to be the least popular stop on the line! If you’re truly hungry, you’ll eat anything, right? That was what I used to believe.

The lady next to me was in charge of heirloom tomatoes and a lot of people had no idea how wonderful those are; they assumed there was something wrong with the tomatoes because they were not perfectly round and smooth. I was totally surprised how many people passed up raw vegetables in favour of the bags of chips and boxes of juice that were offered further down the line!

My second work experience at the food bank was in the area where the hampers were prepared. Depending on the size of your family, you got 1-3 cans each of soup, vegetables, chili-type meals, condiments, protein (in the form of canned tuna, salmon, ham or chicken), boxes of macaroni and cheese and packages of those dry noodles with flavoured sauce.

What really hit me while preparing those hampers was how fortunate I am to be able to choose what groceries I buy! How would you feel if you couldn’t decide what you were going to eat tonight? Yes, it is better than eating nothing, but I was very aware that I would have felt a lack of control.

On the news you sometimes hear about people being abusive to those trying to help them. I did not meet anyone like that; everyone I encountered was friendly, polite and very grateful for the help! The regular volunteers were spectacular as well! Such a compassionate group of people. I saw them treat each and every client as though they were family and friends.

If you follow me on Facebook, you know I am a huge proponent of getting rid of GMOs (Genetically Modified Organisms). A lot of food I saw at the food bank the day I volunteered contained GMOs (like a lot of the food in your local grocery stores). Obviously I would like to see that stop; however, I have conflicting emotions because many people could go without food.

What to do? I would like to encourage people to upgrade the food they donate to the food bank. Going forward, I commit to only donate food that is free of GMOs.

Have you like me ever donated old items from your cupboard? Several volunteers spend their time sorting donations and culling out stale-dated items and cans that are badly dented. I was delighted to learn that no outdated or poor quality food ever reaches the clients.

I hope I live to see the day when there is no longer a need for food banks, but in the meantime, let’s do everything we can to help the working poor feed their families the best possible food!

Perhaps you could donate a bit of time to help out at your local food bank? Christmas is coming. During the holidays, people in need are heavy on our minds. This year, let’s not forget the food banks when Christmas is over. Make it a habit to donate more often and all year round!

 

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These stretches are saving my knee…. DAMN FITBIT!

I was recently introduced to the Fitbit by someone near and dear to my heart. If you are not familiar with this gadget, the Fitbit Zip is a tiny little wireless device you attach under your clothing that tracks the number of steps you take in a day. You can also track your food intake, exercise, water and sleep on your computer or smart phone. It is a terrific health aid!

My friend thought the Fitbit would ignite my competitive spirit and get me up and moving! She was so right! But I may have overdone it in the beginning in my desire to compete with my friends on Fitbit and now I am having some issues with my bad knee.

No problem because I have a personal trainer. Maarten Van Nus knows some wonderful stretches that are really helping! Did you know that often, knee pain is caused by problems with the muscles supporting the knee and not the knee itself? That is the case with me because his amazing stretches make my knee feel better almost instantly.

Not everyone can take advantage of Maarten’s training in person so I was delighted to be able to announce on my Facebook Fan Page that Maarten now offers his stretching exercises in video format. For only $18 US funds (approximately $20 Canadian), you, like me, can have lifetime access to these videos.

A couple of women I had not previously met, discovered the videos on my fan page, purchased them and both are already experiencing improvements in motion! You can too! Sample the videos prior to purchasing them at this link now: http://bit.ly/1tuKvR7

Even if you don’t have a Fitbit driving you to walk more and more every day (Damn Fitbit), these stretches can do amazing things for your body.

Do yourself a favour and check them out now!  http://bit.ly/1tuKvR7

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YOU’RE SICK? NO COMPASSION HERE – GET BACK TO WORK!

At work today, my stomach was very upset, but I continued to work.  The only sign that anything was wrong was the garbage can next to my leg.  When I realized I was going to throw up, I grabbed that garbage can and headed for the washroom.

I was violently ill and the back of my head felt like it might explode!  When I finished, I washed up, rinsed my mouth, tied up the garbage bag and carried it out to the dumpster.  Then I went back to work.

If I had been aware of another person becoming ill at work, I would have encouraged, no insisted, that they go home and take care of themselves.  Why do I not show that kind of compassion to myself?

I can hear my mother’s voice now…  “If you’re too sick to go to school, you’re too sick to watch tv (or read or play with your dolls or (you fill in the blank)”.

Growing up, I took those words to heart and I built on them.  I subconciously believed that if I showed compassion for myself, I was weak.  Strong people do not let hardships stop them; they persevere no matter what.

Then I took that one step further and decided that accepting help was also a sign of weakness.  I believe I must do everything myself.  Asking for or accepting help is weak.  If I am strong, hard-working and self-reliant I will be more loveable.  Right?  People will see what a good girl I am and they will love me.

On my drive home from work tonight, I realized that the little girl inside me was sobbing.  She didn’t feel good.  She just wanted someone to hold her and tell her she mattered.  When people at work tried to show me compassion, asking if I needed to go home, I completely dismissed her feelings and said NO, I am fine, I will keep working.  

Also tonight, a friend offered to do some extra work in the morning so I could rest and I said “BS, I can sit and work at a computer, I did it today”.  And it’s true, I am able to do the work, but am I turning down the offer of help only to prove how strong I am?  Did I think to ask the little girl inside me what she needed?

Tonight, I am going to warm up some broth, get into my PJs, my fuzzy pink robe and my warm slippers.  Then I am going to relax, sip my soup and tell that little girl I do care how she feels and I am sorry for dismissing her feelings today and every day in the past.  I am going to hug her and tell her I love her and promise to be more caring and thoughtful in the future.  And I am going to follow through with that promise!

No, I won’t be perfect, but I will keep working at it and I will get better in time.

Do you sometimes have difficulty showing compassion for yourself?  What false beliefs are you hiding behind?  What if today, you make a promise to do better and then you follow through with that promise.

Give yourself a hug and some love…. YOU ARE WORTH IT!

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THESE FOODS CAN PREVENT DISEASE!

JOIN ME AT A LIFE-CHANGING EVENT IN VANCOUVER, BC ON THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 2014

Would you like to upgrade your health and wellness? 

The Conscious Living Network is hosting an evening lecture event “Living Food” this Thursday with Dr. Brian Clement.

As a member of the Conscious Living Network, I am excited to be able to offer you a valuable discount!  Regular tickets to the event are $45 (plus taxes and handling charges).  Click this link now and register using CODE “Deb” to save $15!

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Dr. Brian Clement has spearheaded the international progressive health movement for more than 3 ½ decades.  He is the director of the renowned Hippocrates Health Institute in San Diego, CA and has written dozens of books focused on health, spirituality and natural healing.

At this event you will learn the best foods to prevent disease and how to increase your energy. 

There will also be a mini-lecture on sprouting by the Vancouver Food Pedaler’s Co-operative (micro-greens urban farmers who deliver by bike).

The evening runs from 5-10pm and also includes:

  • $300 USD voucher towards a 3 week stay at the Hippocrates Health Institute
  • Q&A and a book signing after the lecture
  • A variety of vendors selling delicious raw vegan food

I hope you can join me! 

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WHY NOT GMOs… YOU GOTTA DIE FROM SOMETHING, RIGHT?

Thank you to the Institute for Responsible Technology for the bits and pieces of information I borrowed for this article.   Please read the entire report at http://www.responsibletechnology.org/10-Reasons-to-Avoid-GMOs:

The American Academy of Environmental Medicine (AAEM) urges doctors to prescribe non-GMO diets for all patients.  Numerous health problems increased after GMOs were introduced in 1996.  Food allergies skyrocketed and disorders such as autism, reproductive disorders, digestive problems and others are on the rise.  Although there is not sufficient research to confirm that GMOs are a contributing factor YET, doctors’ groups such as the AAEM advise not to wait before we start protecting ourselves and especially our children who are most at risk.

GMOs are plant or meat products that have had their DNA altered in a laboratory by genes from other plants, animals, viruses or bacteria.

Some of the biggest GMO crops in North America are corn, soy, rapeseed (canola or vegetable oil), cotton and sugar beets.  Go to your pantry and fridge right now and read the labels.  You are most likely eating one or more or all of these products in some form on a daily basis.

I want everyone to avoid GMOs and improve their health.  It makes me sad to hear so many excuses for continuing to eat foods containing GMOs.  Have you ever said “I don’t have time for shopping and cooking”, “I can’t afford organic”, “but it tastes SO good!”, or “you gotta die from something, right?”

If you or your family were ill, you would do everything you could to find a cure, wouldn’t you?  Doctors are reporting that 100% of their patients experienced improved health when they removed GMOs from their diet.  Why wait for illness to strike?  Be proactive and learn how to avoid GMOs today!

Have questions?   Contact me at http://debrondeau.com/contact or deb@debrondeau.com and if I don’t have the answer, I will find it for you.

Your health is your most precious possession!  Please do everything you can to protect it.  Don’t delay; start today by making even one small change!

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MOMMY, WHAT’S WRONG WITH THAT LADY’S LEGS?!

Do you have a body part you wish you could change?  More than one?  The parts I dislike the most are my legs; the excess skin at the top from my 250 lb. weight loss and the swellings around my ankles.  This  swelling is even more exaggerated when I am not eating pure since most processed foods contain huge amounts of sodium.

The photo below on the left is a picture of my legs about 2 weeks ago when I was at the peak of my emotional eating.  The photo on the right was taken immediately following my Purium 10 day Transformation Cleanse.  Not only did I lose 31.2 lbs., I lost 3 inches from my calves and 2 inches from my ankles!  Can you see the drastic difference in only 10 days?!

Today marked the end of Week 1 of my Purium 20 day Continuation program.  My energy continues to soar and all cravings have completely disappeared.  Even better – my scale confirms an additional 4.6 lbs. shed this week, all while adding lots of healthy foods to my eating!  Stay tuned for next week’s update…

Which body part would you most like to transform?  Would you be interested in attending one of the weekly Purium Healthy Happy Hours where you can sample the Purium drinks, hear other success stories and get all your questions answered?  Message me at http://debrondeau.com/contact.  Then when you are ready, I have a $50 gift card you can use toward your first purchase.

Let’s raise a “green” glass to your improved health and your ultimate weight loss success!

 

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